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Love Making Life with…

Annette Gates, LMSW, MEd, CSSE

FREE Love Making Life Course Modules

Hello I’m Annette Gates, LMSW, MEd, CSSE, CGC. All those letters show my dedication to holding a safe space for your healing.

Most of my clients are struggling with sexuality and intimacy issues within their relationship, whether they are with a partner or single. Often there are persistent patterns and traumatic past events that create less than ideal relationship dynamics. Sexual functioning concerns may also be present, leading to decreased capacity for emotional intimacy, freedom and joy in intimate relationships. I also work with many clients that have completed years of therapy, are therapists or helping professionals themselves, but still need a higher level of support in creating the sex and intimacy life they desire (their clients too).

I am a trauma-informed sex and relationship oracle who helps people gain sex and relationship skills. ORACLE? I have lots of knowledge and wisdom to offer that is clinical, humanistic and spiritual, not religious. My philosophy, influenced by Barbara Brennan, is about healing the human energy system, body/emotion, mind, and spirit. Our spirit is not separate!
 
Discussing sexuality and relationship concerns can be difficult for people. I’ve known how long people struggle with an issue and never see change. I can help you find this change using strength-based, practical approaches and solution-focused therapy to get desired results. My webinars, courses, and coaching packages are great paths to affordable support.


Sessions and course modules are mostly ONLINE. In-person sessions are available in my Santa Fe Office (@ Dragonfly Transformations Healing Arts Studio, located at 129 W San Francisco St, 2nd Floor). I do not take insurance. My sliding scale is $260-170 per hour. Read more to learn about my coaching packages, for discounted rates.

Schedule a free 30-minute coaching session

Questions? Use this FORM
or email me at annettegates@gmail.com

If you or someone you know is experiencing overwhelming anxiety or grief, reach out to talk to someone free and anonymous at 505-954-1057. Help is available. Crisis Counseling for New Mexico.

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I hope this 15 minute guided meditation audio file helps with centering in efforts to self soothe as we all learn to navigate the effects of traumatic events. As events happen, they often shatter our illusions of safety. These times can really help us to center into ourselves and our community to create a stronger and more cohesive sense of self. Trauma is not what happens to us, it’s something that happens inside us as we disconnect from ourselves. We often lacked the nurturing and empathy from caregivers that we needed to come back to our selves. We can heal our trauma as we understand ourselves more deeply. As we journey home to ourselves, our wholeness…

 

You will find this audio file is meant to facilitate a deeper inquiry into yourself.

Also, on my website, please allow my course module links to help you deepen.

And lastly, please ask any questions or offer sharing here on this form.

All is held in confidence…

 

Check out my free pre-recorded course modules BELOW by scrolling down.

 


Contact and Practice

My sessions and workshops are mostly on Zoom. In-person sessions are available in my

Santa Fe Office: 129 W San Francisco Street, 2nd Floor

(follow signs for Dragonfly Transformations Healing Arts Studio)

I’m currently taking new clients. My sliding scale is $260-$170 per hour. I do not take insurance. Usually sessions occur every 2, 3, 4 weeks and can continue for a few months or years depending on needs. If you are in crisis or need of weekly therapy sessions, please contact local behavioral healthcare practitioners or agencies in your area.

~~I consult with organizations, agencies, clinicians and other practitioners regularly to empower them to help their clients with sexuality and relationship concerns. My sliding scale for sessions is $260-170/hr.

Coaching Programs

Coaching programs are the ultimate commitment to yourself and healing your relationships. They are the path to freedom! Goals and sessions offer a safe space to gain insight into your past, re-education opportunities, and awareness of your mind-body patterning  around sex and intimacy. Sessions are a mix of guided inquiry into your past, mindfulness and breath practice with guided visualizations. The process develops to affect the change you are seeking. Sessions are fully clothed. An average of three to seven sessions and a timeline achieves desired results. Sessions are offered by phone, video, or in person in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Schedule a confidential, free 30-minute coaching session from link below.

Coaching Program Costs:

Be You in 3 sessions – $495 ($165/session) within 3 months

Go Deeper in 5 sessions –  $810 ($162/session) within 5 months

Dive Deep in 7 sessions – $1108 ($158/session) within 6 months

Interested in a package…

Schedule a confidential free 30-minute coaching session 

 

ALWAYS FREE 
Love Making Life Course Modules
         are Healing…

For anyone who wants a better change in their relationship, who wants to experience more intimacy in their close relationships, — without experiencing sexual intimacy problems, past traumatic experiences, or simply avoiding the problem.

A safe space for ALL people, issues, and desires are welcome and included. You should join if you want to create the relationship life of your dreams, single or partnered. Join anonymously. Listen to the course modules at your own pace. 

pre-recorded modules are available below

FREE click below

  •   Dive Deeper: Taking inventory…
    Pre-recorded – Knowing yourself and your values, needs and communication more deeply. I guide you through taking personal inventory. You will learn about your areas to let go and values to cultivate, with Brene Brown’s Wholehearted Inventory and your love languages with Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. 
Understanding Trauma: Know your history…

“Click here to watch module 4”

 

Annette Gates, LMSW, MEd, CSSE, CGC is a trauma-informed sex and relationship oracle who helps people gain sex and relationship skills. Annette calls herself an oracle because she holds a lot of knowledge and wisdom to offer that is clinical, humanistic and spiritual, not religious. Her philosophy, influenced by Barbara Brennan, is about healing the human energy system, body/emotion, mind, and spirit. She, believes the spirit is not separate! She helps people gain life-changing sex and relationship skills traditional therapy only touches. Learn sex practices specific to YOU as you HEAL. Her gently crafted Love Making Life Program helps clients heal and gain the sex and intimacy life they desire.
Annette is a member of AASECT – The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors & Therapists (AASECT.org). As a Licensed Master of Clinical Social Work, Master of Education in Human Sexuality, and Certified Somatic Sex Educator her practice empowers folks towards healing relationships. This rigorous post-graduate training in sexual functioning concerns accredited by AASECT prepared her well to work with all people having these concerns. Annette also uses her extensive training and teaching about healing the human energy system in all her work with clients. Workshops and groups are also a great way to understand your healing path toward your fulfilled self!

In 2009 Annette graduated from Barbara Brennan School of Healing and is currently enrolled in the teacher training program. The school is a global healing institute headed in Florida, USA and Oxford, UK and is dedicated to the evolution of the human spirit with graduates worldwide, more than 5000 students from all over the world. In 2009 Annette left her 10-year corporate human resources executive career where she created positive change using HeartMath, Landmark Education, life coaching expertise, and diversity, equality and inclusion background. Following her true life’s calling, in 2009, Annette launched her sex and relationship coaching practice after gaining her Somatic Sex Educator Certification from the The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (IASHS) in San Francisco.

Since 2009 Annette has worked with hundreds of clients and practitioners in the San Francisco Bay Area, NYC, Metro Detroit and throughout Northern New Mexico. Her Love Making Life Program has been developed throughout the past decade of helping clients gain greater sexual potential! It is an honor to share this solution, which has helped many individuals and couples over the years. In 2018 Annette gained her Master’s in Education, Human Sexuality from Widener University and in 2020 her Master’s in Clinical Social Work from New Mexico Highlands University. Her earlier Montana State University undergraduate studies in the 90’s consisted of Gender Studies, Political Science, and International Relations where she was a main organizer of the 1st Take Back the Night March in Bozeman, MT. It is no surprise in 8th grade Annette was noted as most likely to become a social worker. She remains passionate about community and the greater good, weaving teachings of somatic, spiritual and alternative forms of healing into traditional education and therapy. In the future you will find her lovingly and gracefully parading within private sessions, workshops, institutions and teaching platforms to affect shifts in our thinking toward more diversity, equality, and inclusion. Let us all learn how to Love Making Life!

Annette is currently accepting new clients, her sliding scale is $260-$170 per hour, and she does not take insurance.  Coaching packages of 3, 5, and 7 sessions offer discounts. see above… Annette is a specialist and tends to work with clients who want to deepen in areas of sexuality, relationships, or a spiritual path.  Usually sessions occur every 2, 3, 4 weeks and can continue for a few months or years depending on needs. If you are in crisis or in need of weekly therapy sessions, please reach out to your local behavioral health providers or agencies for services. For holding and guidance from Annette, check out her FREE weekly meditation groups and workshop schedules. To book sessions, please email her at annettegates@gmail.com

Annette can be retained for speaking engagements and consults with organizations, agencies, clinicians and other practitioners regularly to empower them to help their clients with sexuality, relationship, and spirituality. Her rate is a sliding scale of $270-$170 per hour.

Short List of Education/Certifications:
  • Advanced Studies & Teacher Training – Barbara Brennan School of Healing, Current – 2024
  • Master of Clinical Social Work – NM Highlands University, May 2020
  • Master of Education, Human Sexuality – Widener University, May 2018
  • EMDR Therapist since October 2019
  • Grief and Loss Specialist since September 2019 – Golden Willow Retreat
  • Brennan Healing Science Practitioner since 2009
  • Hands of Light, Light Emerging, Core Light Healing Workshop Leader since 2018
  • Certified Somatic Sex Educator – Advanced Institute on Human Sexuality Studies since 2008
Other credentials: Ordained Minster, Shamanic Practitioner, Shambala Reiki Master and Trainer, Past Life Regression Hypnotherapist
Prior to 2010 Annette held a successful career as a life coach and human resources executive where she used HeartMath and Landmark Education to affect positive change in the workplace.

CURRENT CLIENTS BOOKING LINKS
All sessions are 60 minutes

Zoom

IN PERSON in Santa Fe

 

YouTube Videos with Annette

The Healing Power of Forgiveness – at UU Santa Fe

Relationship and Sexuality Coaching Interview

 

Seeds of the Spirit:  FREE Weekly Meditation and Healing Circles

A great way to connect with the energy healing aspect of being a spiritual human being rather than a disconnected human doing machine.

FRIDAYS 4-445pm Mountain Time – Ongoing

Click HERE for the Weekly Meditation Zoom Link

More info on the weekly meditation:

Seeds of the Spirit is a collection of transformative poetic channelings from Barbara Brennan. These channelings occurred at class meetings at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing.

Each week we will explore one of these transformational poems to connect its deeper meaning to our life and what is going on in the world at this time. These meditations allow us to connect in a deeper way to our spiritual, mental, emotional and physical selves as we interact with all 4 dimensions of humankind; Core Star, Hara, Aura, Physical.

2022 Online Zoom Barbara Brennan Workshops
Cost $100

April 2023 – Hands of Light
Sat & Sun 9am – 1pm Mountain Time (Denver, Co)

Learn the basics about spiritual healing: the human energy field, chakra system and high sense perception.

May 2023 Light Emerging
Sat & Sun 9am – 1pm Mountain Time (Denver, Co)

Go deeper into perceiving your needs on every level of your energy field and how you can participate in your self-healing process and healing relationships. Learn about relationship chord healing.

June 2023  – Core Light Healing
Sat & Sun 9am – 1pm Mountain Time (Denver, Co)

Explore the nature of the creative process from the Human Energy-Consciousness perspective. Discover how we create blocks in our energy field that cause dysfunction. Understand the process to clear those blocks and release creative potential. Learn about ancestral healing.

RELATIONSHIP and all issues, concerns, and desires are the focus of all workshops. No need to do them in order. Your order is DIVINE! Understand the energy field and high sense perception in HANDS OF LIGHT WORKSHOP. Self-healing and relationship chords in LIGHT EMERGING WORKSHOP. Ancestral healing in CORE LIGHT HEALING WORKSHOP. Heal yourself and your relationships and BE FREE!

Questions? Use this FORM
or email me at annettegates@gmail.com

I look forward to being with you sometime soon. In love and light…

TESTIMONIAL FORM – Please do share with me how I can serve you better

 

MORE RESOURCES

If you or someone you know is experiencing overwhelming anxiety or grief, reach out to talk to someone free and anonymous at 505-954-1057. Help is available. Crisis Counseling for New Mexico.

With all my heart, I recommend the following two books in print or audible (they are actually fabulous to listen, especially when one can’t sleep) With guided meditations in them…
Energy Speaks, by Lee Harris
Radical Acceptance, by Tara Brach, PhD

Here’s a pdf link to a 2015 talk from Tara Brach

For quality sex education programs and parent resources for teens check out when your local Unitarian Universalist congregation might be offering a non-secular sex ed program. Here are great resources on the Santa Fe UU site.

For anyone. 12-step groups are great for understanding yourself, others and our patterns in relationship. I’ve been an active member of 12-step recovery from the family disease of alcoholic for over 25 years. Phone, zoom, and in person meetings are everywhere. Google the group of your choosing…

For couples in recovery, check out RCA (Recovering Couples Anonymous) meetings, books and resources. INVALUABLE!!!!! And it’s FREE!

More resources for couples: Imago relationship therapy with Dr. Hendrix and Dr. Hunt best-selling authors of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, learning and teaching the “Imago Dialogue” allows couples to move from blame and reactivity, to understanding and empathy, so they can create a deeper and loving connection with each other. Here is a link to the Imago website.

Here are links to a few resources from the Gottman Institute. Explore the site. There are wonderful resources for parents too. Free Gottman Newsletter.   Webinars.  30-day Relationship Program.   Online Relationship Intensive.

The Gottman Institute Podcast is great too!