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Relationship & Sexuality Coaching and Therapy

Heal your relationships and be free!

Breathing Practice full audio 50 minutes with body poses
(last 25 minutes is the breathing only)

Ancestral Healing, Relational Cord Clearing, Somatic Psychotherapy, and more

San Francisco Bay Area – Santa Fe, New Mexico

Daly City – San Francisco – Marin County – Palo Alto – Burlingame

Hello I’m Annette Gates, LCSW, MEd, CSSE, CGC. All those letters show my dedication to holding a safe space for your healing.

My private practice not only serves direct clients including couples, it also focuses on supervision for therapists, coaches, healthcare organizations, agencies, and companies. I am a certified sex therapist and a master of education in human sexuality. As a licensed clinical social worker, social justice, cultural humility, and empathy are woven through my psyche. I also teach for a global healing school, the ‘Harvard’ of schools in that realm. I help folks gain true alignment with core qualities, needs, and values that guide the transformative process toward happiness and joy.

Discussing sexuality and relationship concerns can be daunting for people and groups. It can feel isolating in today’s highly polarized world. I can help by using; strength-based, practical and holistic approaches to get desired results. Prior to becoming a therapist, I was a human resources executive and coach. Transformation is my life’s service.

Innate desires and needs that are blocked and need more healing and understanding is my goal in all our work together. This is true for individuals, couples and groups. I have an extensive toolbox to share with deep wide perspectives to offer. Most of all, a well honed empathic listening over my lifetime of supporting the transformative process for all folx.

Please schedule a free zoom consult.

If you or someone you know is experiencing overwhelming anxiety or grief, reach out to talk to someone free and anonymous at 505-954-1057. Help is available. Crisis Counseling for New Mexico.

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Contact and Practice

I am currently taking new clients. I currently take Aetna and Cigna insurance in New Mexico only. Soon BCBSNM, New Mexico medicaid and medicare provider. I do not accept insurance for couples sessions.

My sessions are mostly on Zoom. In-person sessions are available in:

Santa Fe: 1503 Llano Street
San Francisco Bay Area: Location in Daly City, Ca

  • All sessions are $200-175 per 50-minute session. Sliding scale based on income.  My rate for individual and couples sessions are the same.
  • I do not accept insurance for couples sessions.
  • My rates for BBSH student BIP sessions are different. Please schedule a free zoom consult.
  • Organizational and supervision rates are variable depending on budgets and needs.

FREE Biweekly Meditation and Healing Circles led by Annette

A great way to connect with the energy healing aspect of being a spiritual human being rather than a disconnected human doing machine.

WEDNESDAYS biweekly at 10am MT, 12pm noon ET on:

May 8th & 22nd, June 12 & 26, July 10 & 24, August 7

Click HERE for the Zoom Link

More info:

Seeds of the Spirit is a collection of transformative poetic channelings from Barbara Brennan. These channelings occurred at class meetings at the Barbara Brennan School of Healing.

Each week we will explore one of these transformational poems to connect its deeper meaning to our life and what is going on in the world at this time. These meditations allow us to connect in a deeper way to our spiritual, mental, emotional and physical selves as we interact with all 4 dimensions of humankind; Core Star, Hara, Aura, Physical.


Love Making Life: A guide to sexual healing and awakening

The guide and sessions facilitated by me are the ultimate commitment to yourself and healing your relationships. They are a path to freedom! Offering a safe space to gain insight into your past, sexual re-education opportunities, and awareness of your patterning around sex and intimacy. It’s a mix of guided inquiry, mindfulness and breath practice. The process develops to affect the change you are seeking. The guide can be self-directed. Sessions are fully clothed. Sessions are offered by phone, video, or in person in Santa Fe, New Mexico and Daly City, California. Schedule a confidential, free 20-minute consultation from the link below.

About the guide for sexual healing and awakening:

After payment, I will send you a personal email with a link to the guide.

Questions? Use this FORM or email me at

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All sessions are 50 minutes

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Book here for in person sessions in Santa Fe

Listen to an interview with Annette on Spotify 

The Healing Power of Forgiveness – at UU Santa Fe

FREE Love Making Life Course Modules

For anyone who wants change in their relationship, who wants more intimacy — without experiencing sexual problems, past traumatic experiences, or simply avoiding the problem.

From Transactional to Transformative Relationships: What’s going on? – Module 1
Understand deeper: your complaints, persistent thought patterns or desires. Get relief through guided meditation and forgiveness exercises.

 Know thyself: What is reciprocity? – Module 2
What is communication and reciprocity? Understand your needs and values. Learn tools for communication and how to increase intimacy with your partner and yourself.

Dive Deeper: Taking inventory – Module 3
Knowing yourself and your values, needs and communication more deeply. I guide you through taking personal inventory. You will learn about your areas to let go and values to cultivate, with Brene Brown’s Wholehearted Inventory and your love languages with Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. 

Understand Your Trauma- Become a healing partner 
Venture deeper into our roots. Through becoming trauma informed we can heal ourselves and help our partners heal. Simply setting the intention of holding a ‘safe space’ as we become more aware of ourselves and our own patterns it is healing; not only for ourselves, but for our current and future partners. We live in a shame-based society where we all experience trauma because of our upbringing, societal images, and lack of education. This often compounds already held trauma in the body that plays out in our experience of our sexuality. This effects our relationship patterns. Who we attract and bond with. You will learn more about your attachment style and how it effects your past and present relationships. Your trauma understandings will unwind in your body and create more space for your sexual life force energy. Your passion!

Know Your Trauma – Module 4

Learn some coping tools for emotional regulation. Take Dr. Diane Poole Heller’s Attachment Styles Test. Use this to increase intimacy with your partner/spouse and yourself

2024 Online Zoom Barbara Brennan Workshops
Cost $100
 Saturday and Sunday
10am – 2pm MT
Hands of Light,August 2024
Learn the basics about spiritual healing: the human energy field, chakra system and high sense perception.
Light Emerging, September 2024
Go deeper into perceiving your needs on every level of your energy field and how you can participate in your self-healing process and healing relationships. Learn about relationship chord healing.
Core Light Healing, October 2024
Explore the nature of the creative process from the Human Energy-Consciousness perspective. Discover how we create blocks in our energy field that cause dysfunction. Understand the process to clear those blocks and release creative potential. Learn about ancestral healing.

RELATIONSHIP and all issues, concerns, and desires are the focus of all workshops. No need to do them in order. Your order is DIVINE! Understand the energy field and high sense perception in HANDS OF LIGHT WORKSHOP. Self-healing and relationship chords in LIGHT EMERGING WORKSHOP. Ancestral healing in CORE LIGHT HEALING WORKSHOP. Heal yourself and your relationships and BE FREE!

TESTIMONIAL FORM – Please do share with me how I can serve you better.

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Sexual Intimacy Resources:


Parlor Games
Women need science, solutions & sisterhood for the second half of life. They are saving the world, one vagina at a time.

Intimate certified organic products which respect and care for the vagina & vulva. Designed to be side effect-free, natural and pH matched to the vagina.

Please request the link for adult educational video resources. Email me at

Communication in Relationship Resources:

For anyone. 12-step groups are great for understanding yourself, others and our patterns in relationship. I’ve been an active member of 12-step recovery from the family disease of alcoholism for over 25 years. Phone, zoom, and in person meetings are everywhere. Google the group of your choosing…

For couples in recovery, check out RCA (Recovering Couples Anonymous) meetings, books and resources. INVALUABLE!!!!! And it’s FREE!

Here are links to a few resources from the Gottman Institute. Explore the site. There are wonderful resources for parents too. Free Gottman Newsletter.   Webinars.  30-day Relationship Program.   Online Relationship Intensive.

The Gottman Institute Podcast is great too!